Sexual boredom—especially in long-term relationships—is not uncommon. If you’re one of the many people who feel like their sex life is in a rut, the good news is there are many ways to reignite the passion you felt in the early days of your relationship. Below, you’ll find six great ways to bring the heat and excitement back into your love life.
1. Do it somewhere different
If sex only happens in the bedroom, spicing up your love life could be as simple as trying a different locale. You don’t even have to go very far: try the shower, the couch, the kitchen counter. Go outside. Book a hotel room for a night and make it a whole romantic evening. You’d get bored pretty quick if you had to eat at the same table, at the same restaurant, time and time again—and if the bedroom is the only place you have sex, it’s understandable why you might feel like things have gotten pretty routine.
2. Have fun with toys
Sex toys and accessories are not only fun but can really help turn up the heat in the bedroom. There are so many different types of toys to choose from—browse any online sex toy shop, or, if you live near an actual brick and mortar store, give them a visit. Sex toys, as you can imagine, come in all shapes and sizes. Pocket vibrators are small, discreet, and not intimidating for those who have never made the foray into sex toys before. If you’re an old hand at this, you might want to check out some of the newer toys for couples, such as the remote-controlled vibrator, which is controlled by an app on your phone . . . think of how much fun you could have at the next dinner party you attend if you put the vibrator in first and let your partner control the remote!
3. Watch porn together
If you and your partner enjoy watching porn, why not try doing it together sometime? Studies have shown that couples who watch porn together have more fulfilling sex lives. Deciding what to watch is also a great way to initiate a conversation about what turns you on, and you’ll learn more about what arouses your partner, too. It’s important that whatever you watch, it’s something that you both feel comfortable with and enjoy. You might find yourself inspired to try something new, and chances are, once it’s over, you’ll be more than ready to get some action of your own.
4. Tell each other your fantasies . . . and then act some out
Everyone has a fantasy, though many people keep these secret desires to themselves. Create a safe, nonjudgmental space for you and your partner to talk about your fantasies. Being able to share your fantasies with your partner—and vice versa—will also help deepen your intimate connection: very few of us would share a sexual fantasy with someone we did not truly feel comfortable with. And once you’ve put some of those secret desires out there, it’s time to see which ones you can act out. What could be more exciting than finally getting to live out a sexual fantasy?
Role-playing can do wonders to transform your love life from boring to banging. Role-playing can be as simple or as complex as you’d like, and you might find you want to incorporate sex toys, accessories, or even costumes, in your role-playing. If role-playing is new, you could feel a little silly at first. Push through that feeling! Start simple. It could be something as easy as you and your partner are role-playing being strangers. Pretending you are someone else (or something else!) is exhilarating, and when you factor sex into that equation, you just might find that role-playing is one of the hottest things that has happened in your sex life.
6. Try a Sexy Couples Game
One of the easiest ways to spice up your sex life is with a sexy couples game, such as the top-rated sex game, Halos and Sins. A game like this can do wonders to reinvent your sex life and keep things hot and exciting, and since you’ll be playing along, you don’t need to do much to think up ways to spice things up—the game does that for you. Play is intuitive and players can pick as nice or naughty a path as they’d like. A game like Halos and Sins takes the pressure off of you to come up with new ways to keep things invigorating and exciting so you get to focus on having fun and enjoying the reignited passion in your love life.